Some Thoughts About Monogamy, Part 2
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🕑 Added 2021-12-01 04:22:52 +0000 UTC
Some Thoughts About Monogamy, Part 2
I want my partner to experience all that life as to offer. When he wants to sleep with someone else it doesn't have to mean that he loves me any less. I’m polyamorous by nature, so I can love multiple people romantically. Many people aren't capable of that, but I am. It’s not a choice, it’s just who I happen to be. I’m made of infinite love. Of course jealousy is a real issue, but it stems from insecurity, so in healthy relationships people accept jealousy as a sign that they need to work on things. I can be very jealous just like anyone else, but I'm usually reasonable about how I handle that jealousy. I don't fly into a rage at the woman who fucked "my" man. I don't become passive aggressive. Jealousy is an opportunity to examine your insecurities and to work hard to overcome them. It's easier said than done of course. But difficult things are often worth the effort. One way some couples handle it is by going to couples' counseling together once or twice a month. I've never done couples counseling but I'm a big proponent of counseling in general.
What’s big for me is this: I do not want to go into a relationship with the expectation of only having sex with that person for the rest of my life. I prefer to go into it with the explicit understanding that we’ll do fun, adventurous things down the line when we inevitably get stuck in a sex rut. I've had a lot of near death experiences and as a result I'm acutely aware of how short life is, and of how important it is to really live it. I am not willing to live in an unhappy, sexless marriage for years. My sex drive is often very strong for a while and then it'll just go away for an entire month (if I'm sick, for example). The pressure to provide a happy sex life for my husband when I'm not up to it for however long kills my sex drive even more. I will happily watch my man fuck someone else if I'm too ill to do it myself. Why not? I'll be like Kris Jenner with her camera, "You're doing amazing, sweetie!" I briefly was in an open relationship with my ex, and during that time I helped him build an effective tinder profile and helped him talk to girls on there to get him laid. It was fun. To clarify one thing: I know this rambling, messy post makes me seem like I'm obsessed with sex, but I would date an asexual person as long as I could have sex with other people. I love you, my asexual friends
